yes.
my [now] husband did long distance for ...a little over a year.
its feasible, but like dear said very challenging, not to mention frustrating!
but like they say "distance makes the heart grow fonder"

my [now] husband and i **

i've done it, and i think it's possible as long as there's an end point - as long as it's temporary and you know when you'll be together again. open-ended LDRs would just be too frustrating, in my opinion.

i tried a long distance and would again. you just have to be upfront about how its going to work out. my ex had serious misconceptions about what i would be doing in the future and it broke us apart

my LDR didn't work out... but i have a close friend whose mom and stepdad are in a permanent LDR--they live 1000 miles apart! they share a home in vermont that they visit on weekends. works for them!

i think the lesson is to know yourself and what you need to be happy.

yes and it worked out. We are married now and no longer 'long distance'.

My (now) husband and I had a LDR for 2 years. It helped to have an end in sight (me graduating from college). My mom and her husband live 6 hours apart; they've never lived together. It works for them.

my bf and i have been together for 4 years and each year wev spent 8 months out of the year in a diff state bc of school. wev got another 3 years before we will spend the whole year together. luckily those 4 months each year that we r together we live together so that helps. we have a great relationship and the long distance hasnt made a difference in it

I'm in one now, doesn't matter how far apart or for how long, nothing can tear us apart.

Ive never been in one, it seems tough.

I think i could, but I really don't want to.

yes, my fiance and i, but we were already engaged and it was just 5 months while we were waiting for his job transfer from paris to houston

i am currently in a ldr right now, as i'm in school and he is working. this year marks 3 years of ldr, but since we're only about 70 minutes apart, we still see each other a great deal.. plus i'm home all summer and we defo make the summer count. haha
actually, today is the first day back at school and i am missing him

I've read this site for a while but never participated... I'm not sure how receptive the community is to guys participating but here goes:

I'm in a Long Distance Relationship right now, if you consider a three hour drive long-distance. I'm hopelessly in love with this girl and we do our best to see each other at least every other weekend. Some jealousy kicks in a bit when she's spending time with one of her exes, but I trust her (and I think she trusts me) so it never becomes an issue.

So I guess it all depends on the relationship you have.

My last girlfriend for a year. She was from here, and ended up moving back here. We broke up 5 months after she moved back, but are still best friends. I wish it would have worked out better.. we're just in different places and better off as good friends. I learned some great lessons from her like how to trust women again and how to be an even better friend. I've never met anyone else like her.

LDRs and I do not mix.

Yes, they are tough. I've been in three and none have worked out. I don't think this is a bad thing since I was young during the first two and quickly discovered they weren't the right guys for me. But this last one - it's been about a year now since we've been broken up - I really, really cared about the guy. We dated in the same city for a while, then he moved, but wanted to stay together. I think I kept putting unnecessary pressure on myself and that ultimately wedged its way in between us. I kept thinking to myself, 'are we going to get married?' 'is this worth it if we don't get married?' and then I freaked out about the getting married prospect...i couldn't handle him being the last guy I would sleep with. We eventually broke up....but I think it's for the best...

Yeah, I was in one for awhile, but it didn't work out. It was an international relationship, and as we're both young, we didn't have the funds to see each other very often at all. We're still best friends, but the need for physical affection didn't help our relationship... Maybe someday? But for now, no.

Boyfriend #1 moved literally halfway across the country the summer before our senior year of high school. We talked online pretty much constantly that summer, went out to visit him, and his family actually ended up moving back before the summer was out. We ended up going out for almost the rest of the school year, but did end up breaking up. That's my only real LDR experience, even though I've dated guy a guy my freshman year of college who lived an hour and a half away, and am currently dating a guy who lives 40 mins away. For sure, that's the best deal I've had yet. I really don't like having to do LDR's, but if it's temporary and you can talk frequently, or visit, it's alright.

It is tough I am in one now too. Well kind of. My boyfriend's company contracts him out for work a lot...so he always travels. It varies from 3 weeks at a time to 6 weeks at a time depending on where he works (closer to home ..one province over is three weeks at a time..further away ex. Nigeria and Australia is 6 weeks at a time). But his company flies him back for 3 weeks or 6 weeks before he runs off again. It is pretty tough...but as long as both people are committed to making it work..it is all good. Helps when he is closer I can fly over during the weekends to see him, and with technology, we txt an talk every day.

Dear Savage.. a man's view is always welcomed...and you are incredibly sweet to drive so far to see your gf

@CYL Well she makes the drive just as often, which is great. One of the better things is having someone else on your "turf" and taking the opposite and being on her "turf" just as often. Its pretty nice to have someone clearly defined as the host, but I would love to see her more.

it only worked out cause i eventually moved up there- if it had gone on for a few more months or we didn't have an end in sight we'd of broken up

but as fate had it, we didnt and we're gettin married saturday

My fiance and I have been long distance for the two and a half years we've been together, and since we met. He was in Chicago until June and I'm in Greenville, SC. He moved to Charleston in June to start his residency, so now we're driving back and forth instead of flying. We're getting married next summer. It can be done if you put in the effort. Laziness is not an option. =)

I've been in one, but it didn't work out.

Every time my husband deploys.

I live in Lebanon because I'm currently going to school and my fiance is in California. It's crazy, having a 10 hour time difference between us. Sometimes I feel like I just can't take it anymore, but I'm too in love with him to call it quits and by next March we will be togehter all the time as Mr and Mrs.

I used to hate them, but my last boyfriend (of 3 years) and I did long distance for about 7 months and it was great. We had a couple of fights about how I was going out and drinking so much (he was just worried about my safety) but we talked on video chat 4-5 times a day. We also saw each other 3 times during those 7 months - it was TX to NY. Now we've broken up in part because we're not ready to do a long CA to NY LDR, but the relationship was dying anyway. Problem is, the guy I'm now in love with lives in London (go figure!) so we'd have to do at least a 2 year LDR anyway if we got together because of my degree obligations... sigh.

I used to be in one, but it didn't really work out. We ended up becoming too busy to work on the relationship. We're still seeing each other casually though when he's here. It's much better this way.

My last relationship was an LDR. We ended up breaking it off because neither of us was really sure when the endpoint would be. Both of us have crazy work schedules and while I orginially planned on moving back to his area after a year, this year's been crazy for me. We still talk all the time and I guess we're "friends" now, but it seems like a hollow friendship to me. Neither of us share about current romantic happenings because we both get insanely jealous. I miss him.

Aw, mondaymoos, I totally relate to you.

I've never been in a long distance relationship but if I were I would have been able to deal with it....

Thanks DearSugar for posting this! I'm in a LDR right now (6 years in October and that's including our "breaks") and it's tough stuff but it does really help to read about other people's experiences. I don't have any friends that are also in LDR so it's difficult to relate or to find support.

We've had a few breaks (even though we were calling each other constantly and still visiting each other) and dated other people, went on dates rather. I didn't find anyone else that sparked my heart like my current boyfriend, I like to think that's true for him as well.

It's challenging but all the good stuff in life is never easy, gotta work for it.

I have a few years back, but I wasn't that into him to begin with to be honest, and that combined with the long distance is a bad combination!

My husband and I had an LDR for the first 8 months of our relationship (until I moved to be with him). Since that's how we started, though, we didn't know anything different and I think that made it easier to deal with. I'm not sure I could have done it the other way around -- it was hard enough as it was!

i have been in one and it was really good for most of it and i learned a ton. i would actually say that it was one of, if not the most important relationships i have had so far. but that said would i ever do it again? NO WAY! haha

I'm in a long-distance marriage... and we don't know when it will end. Well, we do know when it will end -- when I finish my Ph.D... provided I can get a post-doc position in the same city where he is doing his residency... but we have no idea how many years it will be until I graduate.. hopefully in the vicinity of 2-3ish more years...

I've done long-distance dating, and we had periods of being engaged where we were not together, but being married and apart is exponentially worse than long-distance dating.

Have been in one for the past 2 years and 11 days. It's tough but I love him to death. My friends support it but they still don't really understand, but I don't know. Even now I have yet to meet a guy whom I've been able to connect with on the same level as my boyfriend, so the way I see it I'd rather invest in a few tough years than waste my time (and some other guy's) who I don't see much of a future with.

*with someone who

I seem to always find myself in them--either with someone in another country (but just a short flight away), or with someone an hour away. They tend to work for me, because as a person I like the independence, and I'm okay with seeing my significant other once a week, or even once every few months... But it totally does put a strain on your relationship, and you could begin to live separate lives.

I'm currently in a LDR and my bf lives about 6 hours away from me. We see each other about once every one or two months and call, e-mail or text in between. I feel that no matter how long the separation is between our last visit from our next, it didn't or hasn't change how much we really like each other and I feel strong connections to him each time I see him, so to me, the separation makes no difference and absence do make our hearts grow fonder. It definitely depends on an individual's comfort level and situation. As for us, we both have pretty demanding careers so we're constantly busy but more importantly, we set aside time to see each other and have the means to see each other when we want to. We're also pretty independant individuals so the distance is not too much of an issue. I do plan to move to his city or vice versa if our relationship becomes more serious and long term and that marriage is in the imminent future.

my first relationship was LD so its the only thing ive experienced we are actually from the same town but didnt talk. He's a marine in CA and im going to college in MD we dated for about 6 months , but decided to call it quits because it was too much, it was getting to serious too fast and i only saw him twice for 2 weeks each.It was hard to break up becuz we were each others first love.. but yea We still talk about once a week

I was in a LDR for almost 5 years with my husband's best friend (Before we were together) I lived in PA, him in IN. I left my home with the backpack on my back and a one way plane ticket because I thought he was the one for me. He was my first boyfriend, but finally in the end, I saw he wouldn't support me and it wasn't meant to be. Finally after I broke that off, sobbed over so much lost time, I dated ny husband, which I have always liked throughout my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I couldn't be happier.

puddlesworth - your comment made me tear up. that's beautiful. that's exactly how I feel about my fellow. it's like it doesn't matter - it's your soulmate.