well you went from a long distance relationship where you both have your space to living with eachother and being together all the time. its definitely a very big transition and it does take time. you may have rushed into moving in together after being apart for so long. i would try to do stuff without eachother and not be around eachother so often and communicate without arguing.

Wow, this sounds like me except my bf haven't moved in together yet which I think is a good idea for us. When you're in a LDR, you have short bursts of intense time together and then the rest of that time you spend apart miserable and missing each other to death. So like Dear said, this is really a time of adjustment and getting used to each other, so you should be relieved that your arguments are petty and insignificant because that's totally natural! It would be worse if you were arguing about really big and important things. Make sure you are spending enough time apart as living together can be intense - you guys need to hang out with your own friends if possible and find things to do together in the evenings and weekends to try to get used to being around each other on such a constant basis.

The same thing happened to me and my then-boyfriend when we first moved in together. We fought about everything - even the correct way to put a spoon in the sink (do you put it in a glass that's already in the sink or just throw it in?)

Just breathe and try to work towards a routine for the household stuff. Figure out which issues are important to you and which you can let go. Also the idea of resetting the conversation was a big help for us -- one of us would just stop and say, `wait, we're arguing about a spoon. Let's start over. Would you please...'

Talking is definitely key, but try not to match or outdo each other when one complains about something - it'll only start a vicious cycle. And good luck - we got through that rough patch and are now married!

Wow, Dear Sugar said it the best here. It does take some time to get adjusted. Once you do get every detail in order it will be fun and interesting at the same time!

I have some tips for you. There's basically an adjustment period when you move in with someone (anyone, even a roommate). Make rules about cleaning, cooking, and paying bills and stick to those rules. Don't by any means forget to make time for sex- it's crucial and if you neglect it, before you realize it you'll be brother and sister! don't forget to do new things together and actually go OUT - it's easy to stay in - you can even plan date nights. Don't forget to spend time with your OWN friends and have a separate life from your home with him. It's a huge adjustment you're making here. You MUST communicate as soon as something bothers you, and you two must agree to not withhold concerns about your living situation or relationship. Be open to compromise and change and self-betterment.

Princess gave some really good advice! Try not to worry- it sounds like it's a completely normal phase. The key here is to try to develop the "good" fighting habits NOW (as in: trying to be patient during arguments, losing the need to always be right, listening to what the other person is saying). If you can start to control these little arguments in a healthy way, it'll really help when larger issues come up later in the relationship because you'll know how to "argue" in a positive and useful way. I think ALL relationships go through this phase- Good Luck!

i think that when you're finally in a place where you see someone all the time, it's natural to fight. my fiance and i have been fighting like cats and dogs lately and i think that it's because we know each other so well that we know what buttons to push and what not to push and it's just a matter of getting it out of our system. you see all those old couples that seem to have perfect marriages, yet i think that if you poll them, you'll find out that they've all had knock down drag out fights at one time or another but realized that the important thing is the other person and your love for them.