Not sure.
I guess it bad but then again I can understand.

eventually you have stop it though.

forgive. thats what the loser gets for cheating. alls fair in love and war right?!

Haha. Like Laura said--very bad but totally understandable. I admit to having felt that way in the past too; it's incredibly satisfying.

But in the end things aren't any better so you should let go. For your sake.

Ha! not only Forgive; it's the right thing to do! hehe

b*tchy, but I'd be the same way.

At some point, enough is enough, but I can understand this. I'd probably be the same way too. But there does come a time to get over it for yourself.

i said undecided, because he can't really be mad, i mean he cheated on you. But come on. You're obviously not over him either.

forgive.. i mean really - who hasn't wanted the person that hurt them to no suffer a lil in wanting you back?

Forgive. It might be politically incorrect, or morally wrong...w/e, but I would do it. And people who cheat deserve it.

Payback is a b*tch! Enjoy it for a week or two, then move on. Hes not worth another minute of your attention.

totally forgive - that's fantastic.

FORGIVE! cheaters need to be treated this way. i did this to my ex. it's hilarious.

You know, just cuz someone cheated on you doesn't mean you have to be a dick about it. Get over it, move on with your life. The cheater may or may not feel like sh*t, either way why would you waste your time doing this, I wouldn't bother, it's only taking up my time and stealing my joy. Payback is a b*tch but leave that to God/Karma/Whatever...or it'll bite you in the ass eventually if you so happen to turn into a scum cheater.

Forgive! I agree his a cheater... gets no pity

I agree with what's been said. You know you need to stop...you're just not ready yet. I'd totally forgive

HAHAHAHA! it's not a very nice thing to do - but it is so empowering! FORGIVE

Love is a Battlefield!!!!! Hell yes forgive and yes it's just the right remedy for the sickness.

This isn't what I'd call a "remedy" or "justice" or whatever. This is one person holding power over another and reveling in their pain. Way to stoop down to his level. Yuck.

Understandable, given the circumstances. Forgive.

Well, let's just say that when you do these things, I kind of think you may still have unresolved feelings because when you've truly moved on, you don't even want to bother with that cheater anymore. You're actually cheating yourself out of 'healing' especially if this game lasts for so long.

But 'tis your life, do what you must I suppose.

Forgive! A cheater should get what he deserves.

Living well is the best revenge. Be 'everything he can't have' but will forever want and need until the day he dies... Um, Forgive

there are such things as dumb questions.

i say forgive but only for a few weeks...any longer than that is just wrong... but i think its what he deserves haha

What a surprise...coming from a guy: "You know, just cuz someone cheated on you doesn't mean you have to be a dick about it. Get over it, move on with your life."

You don't just "get over" someone cheating on you like that. If you trust someone and love them and they completely betray your trust and love and show for a fact that they don't even think about your feelings or you at all...it's like dying, it's like you can't ever trust anyone again, you're just in shock...how can people be that mean to each other? Why don't people just respect each other?!?!?!

"just cuz someone cheated on you" just cause? Ohhh right, it's no bid deal, it's ok for guys to cheat whenever they want to feel good. Guys need to quit thinking that it's no big deal to cheat on someone! It's a HUGE deal!!!!

And I don't believe in waiting around for some random deity or karma to give people what they deserve. I don't believe in any of those. If you want something to happen, take the initiative and do it yourself.

hope: I agree the OP has unresolved feelings, I'm sure I would for a long time after someone cheated on me. Nothing wrong with that, and people heal and deal with stuff in different ways. This could help the OP, who knows.

I need more information than that to decide.

How long have you been leading him on? I say forgive but there is only a certain amount of time before it gets too nutso for me . Personally I'd save the energy and just cut them out of my life than waste all that energy getting back at them by leading them on.

I say forgive because it is understandable, but I also feel that it is not positive behavior for the OP right now.

Agree with Muirnea...cheating is so much more devastating than many men realize. It can really shake you to your core, make your doubt yourself on so many levels, and completely blast your self-esteem to smithereens.

Personally, I think you should completely cut ties. This man hurt you and betrayed you....why does he deserve to have you in his life at all? If he really has false hope, and you don't communicate with him ever again, he will feel pain, which he deserves for betraying you.

I think you should find other more positive ways to make yourself feel better. Negative behavior may give you short term satisfaction, it's true, but it will eat at you if it continues, trust me.

I secretly feel this way about my ex. I really wouldn't say I think he deserves to feel the way he does but at the same time I have trouble feeling bad for him, too.

the cheater sucks and should be reminded of that, but then you have to move on or else its just pathetic

But this way you're showing that you still need him. I think a better revenge is moving on.

yup def forgive, come off it who wouldnt feel that way, good on you! hehe.

o but after a few weeks just move on, dont let him think you still even want to give him a second glance....go and get yourself a sexy new MAN

I understand, but as everyone else says, there is only a limited time it's ok to behave like this.

I say that it is unhealthy but normal, up to a point. I still think that moving on and not needing them, is the best revenge.

heheh GO YOU!
But i agree there is only so long that this can go on before you are also guilty of being bad

Muirnea - Being a guy has nothing to do with it. I've been there. And I chose not to go around bringing it up every single second. I decided to do myself a favor and try to move on, carrying it on like that is just prolonging things. And just because I'm a guy doesn't mean I have sex with someone and if they cheat on me it's okay because sex doesn't matter. I'm very emotional and sex is a very important thing to me. I know you can't just get over it, but you can move on. I have, a month and a half later and I still remember the exact date and practically time it happened and I probably will never forget but it doesn't help to bring it up or use it as control, it's just immature. I wouldn't want someone to do it to me, so I won't do it to others. Simple as that. It hurts, but hurts less and less because I chose not to dwell on it and take up my time. I'm so much happier now because of it.

u rock! lol. cheaters deserve to be treated like scum bags. yeah, dont lead him on for too long. thats wrong. that`ll make u the b*tch in the end. but ofcourse, he deserves to be hurt 10 times more than u did. totally forgiven