I personally find it MUCH better to sleep on it rather than continue to hash in out. In fact, if it's getting into the evening and I'm feeling cranky and confrontational, I generally ignore it and go to bed rather than even address it. 99% of the time, when I wake up and look at it from the morning angle, things are fine or at least much less important, and it can be solved with a short conversation.

Usually, whenever my boyfriend and I get into an argument, it's like right before my bedtime (he comes to bed later). Usually I will just go to bed angry and he will go watch TV...when he comes to bed though he kisses me and rubs my back and I know he's gotten that stick outta his ass. And once you sleep on it, you realize it's not that big of and issue.

I think it is o.k to go to bed without having an issue resolved as long as you go to bed with the understanding that the both of you are o.k. and will work it out. I have comfort in our pragmatism and don't need an apology or resolution immediately.

I always thought going to bed angry was a bad thing, but sometimes you just need to stop, chill and get some space. Sometimes people aren't built to argue then try to work it out right away. My BF needs a few hours or even overnight to calmly talk about the issue. We have agreed that if we can't work it out right away, then we talk about it the next day. (really talk, not fight again)

Although, getting to sleep while angry is another issue!

I find sleeping on it to be an excellent solution. I always feel differently in the morning, and usually, my instincts kick in, without the added detriment of being already emotional. I see things a lot clearer in the morning. Good luck to you.

my parents have always told me never to go to bed angry with ur significant other and i stick by it. for some its nice to sleep on it and wake up to a clear mind and try to refocus on the issue at hand but id rather deal with it then and there. u dont know wut can happen things happen and that person might not b around when u get up, yes thats morbid sounding but do u want ur last memory of that person to b a fight and u never resolved it. my bf and i went to bed mad at eachother only once in the past 3 and a half years and i hated it, we'll never do it again and we havnt. wev even stayed up till 4 working things out

My husband and I always say goodnight with a hug and a smooch. Even if we have had a bad day we never go to bed without letting each other know we love each other unconditionally.

yeah I don't sweat it...by morning you wake up all nice & groggy and give sweet, stinky morning-breath kisses....ah!

i think its ok to go to bed angry.. gives you time to sleep on.. when you wake up you realize its not that big of a thing!

sleeping on it is okay, i would much rather let it chill than argue all freaking night!

I think it is fine to sleep on it, you can't resolve everything in an instant, some thing take time. After sleeping on it you may be able to see thing differently (or he will). Just as long as it gets resolved at some point, it is good.

Even if we're angry, bedtime's always a kiss and "I love you" with sincerity.

I always figured the saying was alluding to the fact that you might never wake up, as morbid as that is. But it's true. You never know. So I think resolving problems before going to sleep is a good idea.

We've done this a few times.... the problem has usually withered to nothing by the morning, or else one of us makes amends by making breakfast or cleaning the house. Personally I think just sleeping next to each other is therapeutic, though I have been known to kick and hit in my sleep!

Well is not that I think is good or bad, but I just can't fall sleep if I'm angry so no matter what I need to resolve the problem before we go to bed otherwise I would wake up feeling worse. And is the same for my husband, is just they way we are.

I, personally, can't fall asleep with issues. I need everything to be resolved or I'll stay awake all night not abe to get any shut eye!

Sometimes, on weekends, when we've both been partying, we'll get in stupid arguments and we'll go to bed annoyed with each other, but everything is fine when we wake up! Otherwise, we don't usually argue about anything signifigant enough to go to bed angry.

I agree with sleeping on it as long as you both know that it will be resolved tomorrow and one of you isnt sleepin on the couch cause i definitely couldn't fall asleep if that were the case.

I don't like to go to bed angry.

When my mom was young she got into a fight with her cousin and she told him she hated him, they went to bed and he never woke up the next morning, he died in his sleep.

That is something i think of everytime i am mad at my husband, i would never tell him i hate him but i still want to make sure that we are not angry with each other when we go to sleep.

Most of the fights that my husband and I have are precipitated by one of us being really overtired or hungry. So sometimes we go to bed angry because our fight is more from being tired than any kind of real issue, so then we just drop it and we're fine in the morning.

We at one point realized that 99% of our fights were caused by being tired or hungry. Sometimes when you're in the middle of that kind of thing you don't realize it, so we have a safe word- kabuki- that we say if one of us realizes that we're cranky or the other person is cranky and that we're really fighting over nothing.

I think it's actually a good idea to go to bed early. I see things differently when I'm not exhausted and have had time to cool off. Plus, morning make-up sex is the best!

No I don't think it's a good idea to go to bed angry. Anyhow when ever my husband and I lay down after arguing we still tell each other, "I love you, Good night, etc..." Along with some hugs and kisses. I guess he's just like me. After a few minutes of just laying there without speaking, thinking how stupid our fight was, we eventually turn to each other talking it out with the kisses here and there. Then comes the make up sex and were both sound asleep after.

Sometimes it's better to cool off and take the time to analyze everything that's been said. Taking the argument up the next morning will allow both parties to determine whether or not the fight is even worth it. Even if my bf and I go to bed angry, we'll eventually snuggle up in the night; waking up in his arms makes me realize what's really important in my life and makes me more determined to find a resolution or compromise.

facin8me we have a code word too, its Zoidberg, from futurama.

There's a saying... "Never go to bed angry. Stay up and fight."

I can't sleep after a fight so I guess I'm in the "don't go to bed angry" boat.

I don't know if it always makes sense to keep at it just so you don't go to bed angry. Sometimes we need a little break and see things from a fresher perspective the next day. It just depends on the issue and how strong of a disagreement it is.

Totally depends on the person.

You're not promised tomorrow.

I try to never go to bed angry, I always try to at least say I love you, or I'm sorry.

When we fight, I need space to cool off because my temper tends to get me overworked and say things I know are mean and hurtful to him. Sleeping on it is okay as long as you resolve it as soon as possible. Unfortunately, in todays world it's impossible to stay up to resolve issues until the break of dawn. Sleeping on it allows me at least to get rid of the extra superficial feelings and focus on what was really behind the anger. Dan on the other hand likes to take care of issues before we go to bed. But for me, it's always worked better to sleep on it than fight it out through the night!

If you need cool-down time, it is more than okay!!! If you get angrier the longer it goes un-talked about, then it isn't. It's all personal preference, I guess. I always need some cool down time, whereas my husband wants to discuss everything right away. It makes things a little more difficult!

I try not to...I hate it. I usually cry myself to sleep or toss and turn all night.

It's definitely better to make amends beforehand.

I really think it depends on the individual and the couple. Personally, I hate to go to bed angry. Actually, I cant go to bed angry, I toss and turn and get no sleep when an arguement is on my mind. My boyfriend on the other hand, can fall asleep no problem. I usually have to wake him to talk about it. The last thing you want to hear when you are awake and mad, is the person next to you snoring and sleeping soundly. Hey, if you can make it work..without discussing it right away then go for it. Otherwise, get it out in the open and sleep soundly. zzzz..

I hate going to bed angry too. I can't sleep and when I do finally fall asleep I have bad dreams. So I would much rather go to bed happy.

Fortunately by man and I have never had that serious of a fight.

When my boyfriend goes to bed angry he'll wake up angry!! So I have to wait for him to get over it himself or whatever.

I hate going to bed angry though. REALLY hate it.

ugh my ex lived by the "don't go to bed angry" motto and it drove me NUTS because nothing resolved quickly and it would be like 4 in the morning and he'd still be going at it and by that point I'd be angry that I'm not sleeping and I have work in the morning, more than anything else.

I am a big proponent of sleeping it off and cooling down, the only problem is that if the next morning it still bugs one of you and you don't say anything and it never gets resolved

I was always told to not go to bed angry as well, but my husband doesn't live by that rule. So even if I wanted to sort it out before bed, he'd probably be snoring while I was still having issues. I've learned to just let it go and review the situation in the morning. If I'm super angry, though, going to sleep is not an option. It's rare that I'm that angry, though.

The "don't go to be angry, because you might never wake up" thing could be applied to anything. Don't go to work angry because you might not make it home. Don't take a walk to calm down because you might not come back. Don't take a shower angry because you might slip and fall and never get up.

I'm not saying the philosophy is stupid, I'm just saying- every person should draw their own line. Don't live your relationship fearing what could happen, but also don't take for granted what you have.

As for me? Usually just thinking "what if one of us never wakes up?" is enough to make me say I'm sorry.

we always say i love you, but heck yes we go to bed angry. it's never worth carrying a fight into the wee hours of the morning--in my experience, it doesn't get the issue resolved. tabling the problem for the night and reapproaching it the next day is always a safer and saner bet. just make sure you remind each other you love each other and you're golden.

It's only a bad thing if you're not likely to speak to the person again the next day... It's not nice to leave something unresolved for a long time.