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Do Tell: Do You Look Forward to Your Alone Time?

DearSugar — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 07:00:00 -0700

Alone time is incredibly valuable, especially if you tend to be an introvert; it gives you time to process your thoughts and get back in touch with yourself as an individual. But once you’re in a relationship, alone time can get lost in the shuffle of a busy schedule. In fact, if you live with someone, finding alone time can feel nearly impossible. I expressed these thoughts to a friend recently, and she was quick to point out that she didn’t look forward to her alone time at all. Sure, she appreciates it, but she prefers to have people around. I was surprised by her response, but do you agree? Do tell, is alone time something you look forward to?

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Do Tell: When You Get Sad, What Do You Do?

DearSugar — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 07:00:00 -0700

There have been many periods in my life when I’ve felt frustrated with my friends and family, but for every occasion that I’m annoyed, there are a hundred more when having them in my life has proven invaluable. Whenever I’m sad or worried, I always reach out to them, and even if they can’t solve my problem, it helps to know someone cares. But some people are not apt to do the same. In fact, I have a few people in my life that seem to just shut down when they get sad. Does that sound like you? Do tell, when the going gets tough, how do you react? Do you close yourself off for some much-needed introspection, or is feeling down your time to confide?

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The How-To Lounge: Enjoying a Saturday Night Alone

DearSugar — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

Since being alone can be scary for some people, and because even the most social person can end up spending a Saturday night alone every now and then, I’ve come up with a few ideas on how to enjoy such an evening by yourself. To embrace your solo side, just

Dear Poll: Are You Scared of Being Alone?

DearSugar — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 16:00:00 -0700

These days, if a woman admits to being sad about her single status or reveals that she's scared she might end up alone, she's suddenly considered needy or unempowered. Though we may not be rushing out to alert our friends of these thoughts for fear of judgment, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with feeling a tinge of trepidation at the thought of being alone — it's totally normal for both genders to want companionship! So without worries of being labeled as something you're not, answer this: Are you scared of being alone? Source

Dear Poll: Are You Scared of Being Alone?

Not at all. Life is unpredictable; take it as it comes and enjoy what you do have.

Yes, the idea of being alone makes me extremely anxious.

I know it’s not rational, but sometimes it gets to me. I just push it aside.

It doesn’t worry me now, but it might have me concerned a few decades from now if I don’t have someone in my life.

Other — I'll explain.

A Do or a Don't: Solo Vacation

DearSugar — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:00:00 -0700

I like alone time, but the idea of going on a vacation by myself, even for a weekend, kind of scares me. So when a friend recently told me that she was planning a solo trip to France, I thought she was kidding. Imagining someone traveling alone just for the sake of being alone seemed incomprehensible. As soon as she got back, I demanded to know every last detail of her adventure.

I won’t lie; I thought she would say that I was right, taking a trip without company is no fun at all. But instead, she loved it! She was on her own schedule, had plenty of time for introspection, and met some amazing people along the way. I’m not a convert of the solo vaca (yet), but are you? Does the notion strike you as eye-opening or just plain terrible? Or, are there any of you who have already done it?

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Do You Ever Dine Alone?

partysugar — Thu, 29 May 2008 06:45:23 -0700

After spending the long weekend running around planning the Sex and the City screening after party, I decided to treat myself to a delicious dinner at one of my favorite restaurants. Most of my friends were out of town, so I went alone. I have no problem with eating dinner by myself, but was wondering how you feel about it, do you ever dine alone?Source

Do You Ever Dine Alone?

All the time. After all, you're not really eating alone in a restaurant full of people.

I'll eat breakfast or lunch alone, but never dinner.

No way! I don't feel comfortable dining by myself.

It depends on the place and my mood.

Other — I'll tell you how I feel about solo dining below.

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Gone to a Movie Alone?

DearSugar — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I'm a big promoter of doing things alone, mostly because I don't like missing out on things just because I have no one to do them with. While I haven't braved going out to a sit-down restaurant alone, I have gone to a movie theater multiple times by myself, and found the experience weird only because it wasn't uncomfortable. Going solo is great because I didn't have to feel guilty about dragging someone to a movie they didn't want to see. Some people think I'm crazy when I tell them I do this, so ladies, what I want to know is, have you ever gone to see a movie by yourself? Source

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Gone to a Movie Alone?

Yes

I would consider it but have never done it.

You Asked: Do I Love Him or Not?

DearSugar — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar--

I dated a guy all throughout college, we were definitely in love and things were great. When we graduated, it became increasingly harder to make things work -- mostly on my end. I wanted to do things that I had planned for years, like travel. He needed to work so he couldn't join me (he tried), but regardless I wanted to travel without him. I am not sure how to explain it, I still loved him (love) but I began to want more...other people, different scenery, adventure. I told him I wanted a break while I traveled and he sadly agreed. It sort of worked out. I briefly dated other guys but I still had contact with him. We didn't exchange info about who or if we dated. For some reason, even though I was still totally in love with him I started to pull away, ending in our breakup a few months ago.

I got back to the U.S. coincidentally close to his birthday. We had not talked in about a month, and he had no idea I was back, so I texted him saying happy birthday. Ever since then (about 5 weeks) he text messages me 1-2 times a week saying things like, "Missing you today" or "Your favorite show is on channel 7." Then 2 weeks ago he texted that he still loved me and hopes somehow "things work out." I don't get it.

What does he want? Where is this going? I know I should ask him but I honestly don't want to deal with that huge "talk". I am trying to eliminate stress from my life and "just be" for a while. I still love him and miss him everyday too, however, I just want to be alone. I want to be with him for so many reasons yet not with him for others. How can I reconcile those two feelings?

--Spirited Sarah

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