Giving an ultimatum is supposed to be a last-ditch effort in trying to change a particular situation. Most of the time this approach is only used in the most desperate times. However, even as a last resort, ultimatums can be very problematic.
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Since we spend most of our time at work, our cube or office space essentially becomes our home away from home. I've never gone so far as to put frames on my desk, but I definitely have my fair share of unique touches that makes my desk feel homey and familiar. On the flip side, some people don't even feel comfortable sharing their personal life with their co-workers so I'd assume personalizing their cube would be out of the question.
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When we meet someone new or find ourselves with that butterfly feeling, the natural inclination is to share the news with friends, family, and whoever else might listen. There’s so much pleasure in going over the details of a chance encounter or eye-opening date, but sometimes sharing too much too soon can lead to feelings of embarrassment and rejection if things don’t work out.
It’s fun to talk about a guy asking for your number, but it can be painful to later disclose that he never called.
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While I’m always open and friendly, I try not to buddy up to my friends’ significant others — I don’t want to overstep any boundaries or get too involved in someone else’s relationship. But over time, especially if it’s a long-term and serious relationship, it’s inevitable for a kinship to blossom between yourself and a friend’s significant other — you spend time together, swap stories, and end up at the same events.
But when a friend tells you that the relationship is over, suddenly a person you came to know, surprisingly well, is just gone. Admittedly, I’ve felt losses after my friend’s breakups, but from personal experience I’ve learned it’s best to avoid staying friends with a friend’s ex — it can lead to drama and the sensation of being stuck in the middle.
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I am well aware that public nudity at beaches occurs, but I don't think any amount of coercion (or cosmos) could make me bare my business for all the world to see. It's not that I'm prude, I'm just private, and what's under my clothes is only for lucky lovers to see. If I shed my clothes for everyone in broad daylight, including the man I was with, well then our alone, naked time wouldn't seem as special.
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Normally when we talk about meeting the parents, it’s thought of as a formal introduction of boyfriend to family. In other words, it’s a big step. But lately, I’ve noticed a somewhat blasé attitude about family intros.
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If you ask a group of couples how they each met, “through a friend” is probably going to appear somewhere near the top of that list. And it makes sense since getting to know someone as a friend of a friend is far less nerve-wracking than just trying to make conversation at a bar or the gym.
But just because it’s more natural to interact with a friend's friend, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to let your friends test their matchmaking skills on you.
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Obviously the concept of marketing oneself is no new thing when it comes to a job promotion or career jump. But in the past few years, knowing how to market yourself has become, what some of my single friends would consider, a necessity in the dating world. Though I can see the need for some “marketing” when setting up an online dating profile — you need the right picture and a snazzy description — I’m completely torn on the real-world application of this dating method.
It does makes sense to consciously represent yourself as unique if you want to be noticed, but I'm not convinced searching for a significant other should be akin to finding a job.
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The garter-belt toss is a particular wedding tradition that though still in use, hasn’t stood the test of time quite like the bouquet toss and the white dress. I’ve never seen a garter-belt toss that didn’t somehow feel awkward or forced, but I imagine if it's done tastefully, it can be cute. I'm a traditional girl, but still, there’s something weird about watching the bride lift her skirt in front of her closest family and friends.
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Though it's nice to believe that when you meet someone new you’re each starting with a clean slate, the truth of the matter is, you’re both bringing your own mix of good and bad past encounters to the table. When it comes to love, a person can't help but approach things with her own experiences in mind.
Then again, if you find yourself falling for someone, it’s only natural to give him the benefit of the doubt even if his history might tell you to run for the hills.
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