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A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:00:00 -0800

Sex is a powerful tool. It's an act that you have the right to exercise when you see fit. When you're in a relationship, though, sex becomes a special bond that connects you with your partner. Since relationships aren't always wine and roses, it's not uncommon for people to withhold sex as a form of punishment during an argument, but doesn't that create a power struggle in an otherwise healthy relationship? What do you all think: Is withholding sex as a form of punishment a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

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A Do or a Don't: Sexy Texts

DearSugar — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Since texting is so common these days, it's definitely had an effect on dating. For some of my friends, flirting with their significant others via text during the day helps keep the romance alive at night! And sure, a couple of flirty texts here and there is one thing, but a steamy text session is another! I’ve actually had more than one person confess to me that they love getting frisky via text. Frankly, it seems a bit tricky to me — I guess you have to have a really good imagination! Have you engaged in naughty texts? Or is a text the last thing you think of as sexy?

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A Do or a Don't: Checking Out Your Lady Business

DearSugar — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Last weekend I spent a giddy night with girlfriends just talking — you know the kind of night I’m talking about! In the midst of our conversation, one friend confessed that she’d never really seen her lady business before. Immediately, the other ladies launched into their own experiences on the matter. I couldn’t help but think of the Sex and the City episode where the girls try to convince Charlotte to check herself out in the mirror — even though she was incredibly uncomfortable, she went through with it!

Personally, I think the more knowledge you have about your body the better, but is grabbing a mirror over-the-top? Have you ever examined yourself down there? Or does the idea make you squirm?

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A Do or a Don't: Talking Sex With Male Friends

DearSugar — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Although people have varying opinions on whether or not guys and girls can really just be friends, I do think there’s something to be said for having the male perspective at your disposal. If you’re wondering why your male co-worker always asks you to lunch but never asks you out, your guy friend may be able to shed some light on a subject that your female friends wouldn’t. But would you take it one step further and describe to him a problem or question you have related to sex? Though a man’s viewpoint might be helpful, talking sex with an actual boyfriend can be tricky enough. So ladies, tell me, do you talk about sex with your male friends?

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A Do or a Don't: Jam-Packed Weekends

DearSugar — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:00:00 -0700

During the week it’s normal to start planning for a fun-filled weekend. And when the weekend finally arrives, it feels great to be busy and social, but by Sunday night, you can easily feel depleted. For those of us who need recuperation, sometimes mellow weekends are a far better choice, even if it means staying in on Friday night. So are you all about the mellow weekend? Or do you like your weekends to be as busy as possible?

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A Do or a Don't: Getting Emotional in Public

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Last night I went out to dinner with friends and we got seated next to a husband and wife who were clearly having an argument. They ate in silence and then halfway through their meal, she burst into tears. Though I know it's impolite to stare, we just couldn't help ourselves!

When you take your personal drama out in the public, one has to assume that people will not only eavesdrop, but feel slightly uncomfortable, too — an awkward situation for all! Sure, sometimes our emotions get the best of us, but is getting emotional in public — no matter what the circumstances — a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Supporting a Cheating Friend

DearSugar — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700

In my book, there’s never a good excuse to cheat, but sadly I’ve had friends who’ve cheated, and they’ve always managed to come up with multiple excuses. Even if I can understand their rationale, I still want them to stop. It goes without saying that when I’ve been in the position of supporting a friend who’s cheating, it’s been extremely difficult for me. And yet, I also see it as a time when a friend needs me most, so I can’t just walk away. I support the person, not the action, I suppose. But is that wrong? If a friend is doing something as damaging as cheating, should we turn our backs on them until they turn around? Or should we support them since it’s not our responsibility to judge?

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A Do or a Don't: Rebound Dating

DearSugar — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

I’ve often heard it said that the best way to get over someone is to start dating someone new. And while I’m certainly not against that notion, I do believe that some real alone time for reflection and recuperation can be a lot better than a rebound guy. Even if it’s no big deal to you, often the person you’re rebounding with can end up feeling hurt when you’ve fully bounced back and are ready for other things (or people). So have you ever rebounded? If so, is this how you get over your breakups?

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A Do or a Don't: Lying For Someone You Love

DearSugar — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Though I’ve certainly been let in on some big secrets throughout the years, fortunately I’ve never been put into a position where I’ve been forced to lie on someone’s behalf, because honestly, I’m not sure I could do it. A white lie is one thing, but serious lies make me nervous. Still, I’m sure much of it depends on the person and the circumstance. What are your thoughts on this? Would you ever lie for someone you love? Or would even being asked to do so be a violation of your relationship?

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A Do or a Don't: Partying With Co-Workers

DearSugar — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:29:07 -0700

I love attending work parties. It's always fun to blow off steam with co-workers and see what they're like when they let their hair down. But I always watch myself as drinking too much in the presence of superiors could lead to quite an uncomfortable situation! Luckily, I haven't had to learn the hard way, but I've witnessed people that have and their embarrassment was overwhelming. Of course, no one aims to be a sloppy drunk, but as we all know, accidents happen. So what do you think about partying with your co-workers? Is it a do or a don't?

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