Dear Sugar,
I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend a year ago and since then I've started graduate school and, sadly, piled on some weight. Unfortunately we bought our bridesmaid dresses a year ago, preweight gain, when they were on sale at Ann Taylor. The wedding is coming up in two months and I'm worried I won't be able to lose enough weight to fit into the dress.
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It's more than acceptable to turn down some wedding-related events because of financial strain, but during a busy wedding season, costs can add up even if you are bowing out of events here and there. Arriving as a guest can be expensive in its own right, but the title of bridesmaid comes with several additional costs that, according to The Knot, can easily amount to $1,000 or more.
Keep in mind, especially as an out-of-town bridesmaid, that just because you receive an invitation to a sampling of showers doesn't mean the bride expects you to be there.
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Dear Sugar,
I have a close friend who is a guy. Over the years I have become friendly with his wife: We do things together as a group, but I never call her or do anything with her separately. To be honest, I don't care for her very much; she can be rude and very hard to have around.
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I think we can all agree that the worst part of being in a wedding is the expense. Though traditionally wedding attendants pay for their own attire and travel expenses, that particular rule has never made much sense to me. Obviously in some cases, especially when it’s a large wedding party, expecting the bride and groom to pay seems unrealistic, but I just don’t know how I feel about this one.
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This week kicks off the Sugar network's "Wedding Planning Mania" coverage, which means there'll be a whole bunch of bridezillas up in here. WE TV has a series that follows brides-to-be around town while they hoot, holler, and make a hostile effort to plan their weddings. The 'zilla below ordered all of her beautiful (but "five pounds" overweight) bridesmaids to follow a strict no-carb diet — oh all right, with an itty-bitty spoonful of rice on the side.
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It’s certainly a bit awkward and requires some major tact, but you actually can say no to a friend’s request for you to be her bridesmaid. In fact, if you really don’t feel like you’ll be a positive participant either because of time constraints or personal demands, declining her request might just be the best thing you can do. Though coming right out with “no thanks” may not be the best strategy, there are ways of refusing gracefully.
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Dear Sugar,
I'm a bridesmaid this Summer in the wedding of one of my closest friends. She comes from a a very traditional Southern family, and she is having a ton of parties to celebrate her upcoming nuptials. Since I'm in her wedding party, I'm invited to all of them.
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According to a recent poll done by You & Your Wedding magazine, one in five ladies are so concerned about their bridesmaids letting them down on their wedding day that they would consider asking them to sign a "prenuptial agreement." In response to the magazine's survey, the Telegraph writes:
It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant, or changed their hairstyles before the big day. A series of suggested clauses included that bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol, or make any advances towards "inappropriate male guests" — or the groom.
The newest comedy starring Katherine Heigl, 27 Dresses, comes out in theaters today. The story revolves around Heigl's character, who has been a bridesmaid 27 times and is about to embark on her 28th for a wedding between the man of her dreams and her sister — ouch.
Needless to say, it got me thinking about that old familiar saying: always a bridesmaid, never a bride. 
I've already been a bridesmaid one too many times in my life. Can you sense the lack of enthusiasm in my voice, er words? If my friends had let me wear this Calypso Satin Convertible Wrap Dress ($270), my outlook on bridesmaid fashion would be very different. 
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